Lady Like

"Welcome to the age of un-innocence. No one has breakfast at Tiffany's and no one has affairs to remember." - Sex and the City

Where have all the ladies gone?

I'm not talking about females in general, we've been seeing more and more of us women out there in the "real" world haven't we?

I'm talking about ladies. Women with class. Women with dignity.

I'm all for pro-choice and through this I am pro-lifestyle. Everyone can act the way they want so forgive me if this blog is about to sound preachy.

With having a choice to take the house-wife role or the independent-business-woman role (or both if you can handle it - woo Mom!) I have continued to find a certain trend in the women that have chosen the "independent role."

There's this "I am me; I do what I want, who I want, when I want" attitude that seems to be very popular recently. There is nothing wrong with this. We can do whatever we want.

Believe me, I am very independent myself. In fact, I'm all for being self-sufficient and in charge - however there is most definitely a way about doing it.

What am I talking about?

I'm talking about sex. Relationships. "Quick choices" if you will.

Somewhere along the lines, it is my belief that women have come to believe that independence and sexual expression are one in the same.

For goodness sake's women, please have some self-respect and be classy.

If you choose to sleep around or have exciting but ever so quick relationships, attempt to do it with a bit of grace and fabulousness.

There's a reason why many women often refer to men as pigs: because of the way many men speak about women, the way many men recklessly demote women and laugh about it later... you're feeding fuel to the fire!

I'm thinking Samantha Jones may have had something to do with this movement which breaks my heart because this is not what Samantha Jones is about. Women are distorting her message - they've read too much into it and they're turning it into a negative outcome.

Samantha Jones is one of my idols! She has a fabulous career, solid friendships and an extremely hot sex life. Yes, she's had sex with many, many, many men but she did it in an elegant and tasteful manner.

She did not go around shouting from the rooftops that she's had sex with another man; she didn't use vulgarities that devalued her... she was refined. Of course she had some rare moments when she felt she had to make a statement - but these are the few times when Samantha seems weak - not strong.

I suppose my message is: ladies... be ladies! You may think you're taking two steps forward but you are in fact, taking five steps back.

Samantha: Relationships have declined since women came out the cave... ...looked around and said, “This isn't so hard.”

Carrie: So you don't need a man, but do you still want one?

Samantha: I want more than one.

Carrie: I can't decide whether you represent our future or our demise.

Samantha: I am the future!

Happy Thanksgiving to you and you and YOU!

My Thanksgiving weekend has been quite amazing. I spent time with the people I really love and got do a lot of things that may not have been great for my waistline but were completely and 100% enjoyable.

My weekend started off with my best friend and that's how you know you're in for a great time. We went grocery shopping and practically cleaned out the place.

We cooked our traditional

Thanksgiving meal and even created our own recipe for potatoes!

The rest of the weekend was filled with Thanksgiving episodes of Friends, spending time with my brother who is home from university, YouTubing and tonight my mom made a meal for the record books: tender turkey, creamy mashed potatoes, scrumptious stuffing, steaming vegetables and smooth gravy.

Basically right now I am just incredibly thankful for everything and everyone in my life. I'm so thankful (and lucky) for my family and friends, I'm so

thankful for all of my good fortunes (my education, my job, my abilities) and I'm thankful

as well to all of you reading this!

I hope all of your Thanksgivings have given you a moment to pause and realize how precious life is and how we can truly appreciate life when we are thankful for it.

Does this make sense? Hope so. Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

Planes, Trains & Automobiles

There are certain movies that totally get me into the holiday spirit

and for Thanksgiving, Planes, Trains and Automobiles definitely takes the Cake Pumpkin Pie.

The Break-Up Rules

As Charlotte York once quoted, "it takes half the amount of time you dated someone to get over them."

There continues to be an ever so quickly growing list of the do's and don'ts of break-up steps to get over the person whom you once shared an intimate relationship with...

• Get rid of all pictures together
• Delete their number from your phone
• Hide presents they gave you
• Get drunk with friends on would-be anniversary

All of the above are little tricks and tips handed down from woman to woman trying to get over and stop wanting to get under an ex.

These "rules" - if you will - all pertain to one’s personal benefit. But what about the other rules? The do’s, the don’ts and the politics of the break apart from a person.

For instance….

When is okay to ask them for your movies back?

“Hey, I’m sorry for breaking your heart, but can I have my Back to the Future DVDs back?”

How about when you can give them back their stuff?

Is dropping old shirts, movies, hairbrushes, and cell phone cases in the mailbox bad taste?

How about birthdays and holidays?

Is wishing them a happy birthday or Merry Christmas leading them on?

How weird is it that at one point in time two people were totally in sync, totally in love, totally comfortable, totally natural with one another and suddenly there are questions upon questions on the proper way to communicate – or if to, at that.

Modern Family

I'm hopping on the bandwagon and have just finished my very first episode of Modern Family.

I think Modern Family is an extremely creative concept on many levels. While I already quite enjoy the comedic mockumentary aspect I think that the idea of showing real families is incredibly - and humorously - enjoyable.

Of course shows that display the "perfect family" are truly enjoyed by people like me (Full House, The Brady Bunch, Family Ties, etc.) however, there is something about the honesty and brutality of the real family that is truly entertaining.

One of my favourite television shows growing up was Roseanne - a show which did not include the perfectly fit and always hair-and-make-up-ready mother like Mrs. Brady but instead a rather fuller-figured Roseanne Barr who never hesitated to give one of her kids a firm backhand or tease her husband rather harshly.

The three Connor kids on Roseanne dealt with real issues like pregnancy, smoking, drugs, alcohol as well as an unwed aunt with two kids.

Few would look back at this show however and think of it as a nasty, awful show that displayed a loss of humanity. No, people look back on a hilarious show that had people connecting to real issues and relatable humour.

On that note, I'd just to like to express my excitement for perhaps a new addiction: The Modern Family.

Welcome Back

While I have quite a few passions and hobbies, two of my most darling passions are writing and video-making.

Last year I wrote approximately 80 blog entries which mostly involved me procrastinating late at night and wanting to share what was on my mind with the world; with cyberspace; with anyone who would listen really.

I decided then to stop writing for a while when I finished school for the summer and focus only on my video-making fun. I strongly encourage you to check out my channel.

[ Insert shameless self-promotion here: www.youtube.com/meltab27 ]

I will continue to make my videos as they are my most beloved fascination at this point but I have truly missed the pleasure and rush I also get from writing on my dear old blog.

So here we go. Cheers to another school year. Another late night. Another adventure. Another story. Another thought. Another question. Another answer.

Another blog entry.

rude

I'm all for sexually expressive songs and music that can create illusions in your head... But this song is just what the title says: rude. Rhianna's blunt new song is vulgar and gross - not to mention extremely annoying.

What ever happened to females acting lady-like?

I'm not one for saying girls shouldn't be wild and crazy and have a good ol' time... but when is the line crossed? When does a woman stop appearing free and fun and begin to appear and shallow and trashy?

Feminists are all for promoting women raising their voices, having voices.

However, when all women have to talk about is demeaning lyrics such as "boys getting it up" it's like taking one step forward and two steps back. Smarten up.

I think back to Audrey Hepburn and Jane Russell and the vast amount of respect these women had and how that is something that is hugely lacking in our day and age.

What do you think of this video? Better yet: the lyrics?