Distance makes the Heart Grow Fonder

There's that feeling... that familiar feeling of knowing you're going on vacation.

As the days approach to your getaway you suddenly can't stand your house. You've got to get out of here. Got to get where the grass is greener.

While this anticipation and rush can be great and exhillerating - and even last almost the entire trip - the thought of returning home as the end of your vacation approaches slowly but surely strengthens.

You want to get home. You miss the usual. You miss the routine. You miss your bed, your food, your regular clothes, your comfort.

Funny how distance makes the heart grow fonder... and perhaps in more ways then one.

What if we applied the vacation scenario to relationships? What if we suddenly feel an itch to be "less available" to our significant other? What if suddenly we seek a bit of distance? To "test the greener grass" if you will.

This time it doesn't seem as simple. We can't just hop on a plane and travel to somewhere new. This is more tricky. This is more touchy. This is way more risky. In fact, the thought seems taboo.

But what if you've got too much of a good thing? What if you need to step back to access?

The most frightening thought I suppose, would be that one chooses, in fact, to travel to a new place.... chooses to test the waters... chooses to step onto new grass... and just when they start to miss that homey feeling, they realize they don't have the option of a return ticket.

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder. Well, just how far can we go?

Is Talk Cheap?

Throughout the day we hear so much that sometimes it is difficult to decipher what is real and what is fake. What is true and what is false. What is significant and what is ... "blah blah blah."

"I'm sorry" "I hate you" "I love you" "You suck" "You're the best"

How many of these sayings that so commonly fill our ears can we take to heart - if any at all? And is there a way to figure out what is the truth?

After contemplating this idea for a number of days I suppose there isn't a true way. I mean, even lie-detectors aren't capable of fully telling if something is a lie or not. Perhaps our only judge could be our head... or even our heart.

Decisions, decisions

We make so many decisions everyday.

Cereal or toast?

Stop at the yellow light or gun it?

Buy lunch when you know you shouldn't... or satisfy your craving?

Stay at school to work in the library or just go home to your room?

Start essay or watch another episode of Sex and the City?

How many of these decisions we make everyday stop us in our tracks and have us think logically?

Perhaps if yesterday, I'd chosen toast, I wouldn't have spilled milk from my cereal across the kitchen floor causing me to clean and delay my day by 15 minutes...

Perhaps if I'd just gunned the yellow light I'd have arrived at class on time and not had to take the chair that was broken which has consequently given me a back pain...

Perhaps if I'd have listened to my gut instinct and not boughten the tuna wrap at lunch, I'd have had $10 extra dollars in my "in case of emergency" pocket...

Perhaps if I'd stayed at school to work in the library, I'd have finished my essay...

Perhaps if I'd actually started the essay instead of watching three episodes of SATC, I'd be done by now... not still procrastinating to write the stupid thing!

Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps....

Perhaps all of that would have been more efficient... but I did enjoy my cereal, my wrap, my song at the red light, my non-traffic drive home, my cozy room alongside my sleeping dog and who couldn't use a few good SATC episodes once in a while?

Good decisions, different decisions, hard decisions... perhaps there are no wrong ones.

Aren't you glad I made the decision to write this post instead of my essay? Ricky?

Do You Believe in Magic?

I love Halloween Time. As I child, the festivities of Halloween excited me for two reasons: I loved dressing up and... I loved candy. While these two aspects still excite me, I've begun yearning for something else as I've gotten older.

Is there such thing as magic?

Do witches and wizards really exist? True Harry Potter fans will argue that of course there must be such thing as magic. Somewhere out there (and how we wish we could just find that map) there is a Hogwarts, a Forbidden Forest, a Flourish and Bolts, a Ministry of Magic and even a Burrow.

There are different magical realms that entice me as well. Sabrina the Teenage Witch's magical standards could suit me just fine! Having a talking pet, a closet that could take me anywhere and magical powers through my fingers would be so handy. (Let's face it, the wand seems more annoying than helpful most of the time.)

Then you've got Samantha Stephens from Bewitched who owns the incredibly adorable nose twitch. Wiggle wiggle and... ta da! A beautiful turkey dinner is set before your husband and aunt in a mere blink of an eye.

Many movies and television shows have centered around the idea of witchcraft for one sole reason: it amuses us. It amuses us to no end! Our imaginations go wild thinking of endless possibilities that magical powers have to offer. Many of those reading this may think that this post is completely silly, but on a night like tonight, before Hallow's Eve, I can't help but wonder if this form of magic really does exist.

To quote the Lovin' Spoonful: Do You Believe in Magic?

Regardless of your beliefs, I wish everyone a very safe Happy Halloween!